So you are sitting on the hardwood floor of your room, right across your bed. Your eyes are fixed on the mountain of clothes you created a few minutes ago, as you frantically tossed every item of clothing you own from your closet, over your shoulders, onto your bed. You have an important event to attend in a few hours and you don’t know what to wear! You could just go to your favorite fashion bloggers’s website or browse through pictures of your celebrity style icon and replicate an outfit of your choice. But you don’t want to end up looking like a wannabe Beyonce or Kendall Jenner. You want to look like your self. Now what?
Even seasoned “fashionistas” experience “stylist’s block” ( a stylist’s version of “writer’s block”), when assembling an outfit. But the truth is, it’s even more difficult when you have no idea who you are style wise.
That said, honing your personal style in a world filled with fashionistas, stylists, self-appointed fashion policemen and women, and fashion retail mannequins shoving their ideas of “style” down your throat, can be quite tricky.
Call me cheesy but I treat and view style as art. It is a form of expression and everyone has something different to express. Style is more than just about following trends and posting instagram pictures, it is about being confident in and celebrating your personality. So, my friend, there is hope for you.
As a model, you are sort of a blank canvas on which these experts write their own ideas of style. While I LOVED doing this and still do, I can’t say it was easy figuring out my personal style amidst all these different influences.
Thankfully, I have come a long way from being confused about my style. (You would hope so, since I run a style blog). So if you are currently at a stage where you are not so sure about your personal style, I can relate. I have 5 tips to make your journey a little easier.
5 Tips to Help You Hone Your Personal Style:
- Be Bold. There really is no better way to say this than “be bold!”. If you don’t have this first step down, it might be difficult for you to check off the remaining four steps.
- Walk Away from the Mannequin, Love. Never buy the entire outfit off the mannequin (except of course, the mannequin is your style twin). I say this because buying the entire outfit off the mannequin makes your lazy. It is more tasking to assemble individual pieces yourself into an outfit that is YOU. However, this is helpful in the long run because you practice being creative with your personal style.
- Go With Your Instinct. Let expressing yourself come first before anything else. Don’t focus on the price of the items or how trendy they are. Shop at a thrift store, shop at a high end store. Mix and match. Have fun!
- Change Your Shopping Habits. Learn not to buy an entire outfit in one trip to the mall. First, that is stressful. Second, it is expensive! (You’ll most likely end up splurging). A smarter way to shop is to buy a top for those pants you already have at home or to buy a pair of trendy sandals from Zara to match that sun dress you scored at a thrift store. Again, this challenges you to be more creative.
- Get Inspired. Look at other people’s styles and see whose personality (expressed through their personal style) is similar to yours. But be careful. Do not be swayed by the stunning oufit posts of your favorite fashionistas. Instead, be inspired by them. In other words, do not simply recreate the outfits. Take it a step further. Make them more you.
When someone says “that looks like something you would wear” or “that is so you!”. This, my friend, is the ultimate compliment. It means you have shown consistency in your style choices. So celebrate!
Here are some my favourite style bloggers who, in my opinion, have definitely mastered their personal style and express it boldly, in no particular order:
Natasha Ndlovu of Bisous Natasha
Aimee Song of Song of Style
Cassie Ikegbune of Cassie Daves
Sharon Mundai of This is Ess
Sonya Esman of Class is Internal
Brenda Chiunkam of Canneverbeaskinnybish.com
Folake Huntoon of Style Pantry
Grace Alex of Gafashion
A Few Ways to Know You Are Making Progress:
- When you start to acknowledge different pieces or outfits on other people or on mannequins, but, in the same breathe, remind yourself that it is not your style. In other words, not every cute item you see makes it into your closet.
- When someone says “that looks like something you would wear” or “that is so you!”. This, my friend, is the ultimate compliment. It means you have shown consistency in your style choices. So celebrate!
What is your story of finding or perfecting your personal style? What are some tips that you have for others who are still on this journey? Who are some of your favourite fashion bloggers, style icons or just anyone (your friend, sister, brother) that you think have truly discovered their own personal style and express it boldly? Let me know in the comment section below.